Hi, I’m Nicola.  

I’m a foster parent, an accredited coach, and someone who’s walked through the fire - and still chooses love, every single day.

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My journey into fostering began when my daughter was just nine years old. She wished for siblings, and as a family, we decided to open our hearts and our home.

 

What began as respite care quickly became something deeper.

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Over the past decade, I’ve been a solo carer for three incredible children - two of whom I’ve fostered long-term.
Together, we’ve navigated joy, trauma, growth, and grief.

And through it all, one truth became painfully clear: foster carers are often forgotten in the process.

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We’re trained to care.

To manage.

To hold space.

But we’re rarely taught how to hold ourselves.

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I’ve lived the exhaustion.

The guilt.

The pressure to get it right while quietly falling apart behind closed doors.

 

I know what it’s like to love these kids with your whole heart - and still feel like you’re failing.

​And I also know: You can care for them without losing yourself.

You deserve rest. You deserve boundaries. You deserve to feel seen.

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That’s why I created my signature framework, Fostering with Confidence - a space for carers like you to reconnect to your own needs, rebuild your emotional resilience, and receive the kind of support I wish I’d had all along.

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Because fostering shouldn’t come at the cost of your health, your joy, or your identity.

You matter too.